If you’re recovering from people-pleasing, reconnecting with your true self can feel like finding a lost treasure. People-pleasing often leads to self-abandonment but remember you haven’t truly lost yourself; you’ve simply lost sight of who you are. Let’s navigate back to your core identity together!
Secret 1: People-pleasing isn’t WHO you really are
People-pleasing isn’t your true identity. As you recognize signs of people-pleasing in your behavior, remember that it’s something you do, not who you are. You weren’t born a people-pleaser; it’s a coping mechanism you’ve developed. Whether influenced by upbringing or conditioned responses, you can break this habit and rediscover your authentic self.
Secret 2 : Watch out for the Sneaky Escape Artist Within You
Watch out for self-abandonment. Do you struggle to trust yourself? Perhaps you hide parts of your feelings, beliefs, and ideas to fit in or please others. When you consistently prioritize others over yourself, you’re abandoning your own needs. Listening to your intuition and honoring your voice can help you reconnect with your true self. Self-support is the key to finding your way back.
Secret 3 : Upgrade your power to protect your peace by exercising your boundaries
Recognizing the need for a robust self-protection system—those healthy boundaries—is a crucial step. It’s okay to seek validation externally, but remember that your self-worth lies within. Boosting self-confidence and self-validation can empower you. Unresolved issues may be holding you back, creating roadblocks to alignment and flow. Addressing trauma is essential; otherwise, those repetitive patterns persist. Prioritize safety, connection, and significance—seek ways to meet those fundamental needs.
